1. Listen and ask more
In order to really understand what’s going on in our kids’ minds we must continuously ask them how they feel, what they like, where they’re going, who they like. Touch on all the W’s every day - even if they give you short answers all the time. Don’t stop. Keep asking. Eventually, they’ll get comfortable to the constant “interrogation” (as it may seem with teenagers), and open up to you. Start this process of asking questions when they’re little and keep it going till they’re married.
One mom suggested going out for a walk or a long drive to get your child to speak up. The inability to make eye contact during these activities may help your child loosen up and freely speak.
2. Contact the School Liaison or Counselor
The school liaison can help answer questions about schools and possibly introduce you and your child to another child at the school. Your child will already have a familiar student to hang out with or eat lunch with instead of fearing of sitting all alone at lunch.
3. Share your experience
Dig deep into your memories and let your child know your experiences at their age. I’m pretty sure they’re experiencing very similar emotions and interactions with others. Listen to a playlist that plays all the old-school jams that’ll help you educe all your childhood memories.
4. Put Yourself Out There
We as parents have to lead by example. If you want your child to make friends, you have to make friends. I’ve seen a ton of mothers on Facebook groups ask for friends with children the same age as theirs. That is just a brilliant idea! Get on social media and use it to actually be SOCIAL!!
Join the PTO so your child can see you interacting with others at their school. It’ll help you spark conversations with your child, since you have an idea of what’s going on in their school.
Pray for your children, their teachers, their classmates and the community. Put out that positive energy into their world and bless them with the power of God. They are our angels and deserve the protection, guidance and love.